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How to manage loneliness.
I’ve struggled with loneliness a lot in my life – feeling like I had no one to share my pain with, no one to comfort me or even just be there with me throughout it all. It is truly a horrible way to feel, but it’s not true. You see, our minds go to some very dark places when we feel low and shaytaan would have us believe things that are false. Sometimes it’s our mentality that needs to change, our outlook can make all the difference to our mental health. Being lonely is a state of mind it isn’t a fact like being alone and that’s the first thing…
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Learning how to forgive others
Learning how to forgive others may be one the hardest skills I have learned. There’s this guilt isn’t there? This mentality of a good Muslim forgives and so if you don’t you can’t be a good muslim. Sure, forgiving a minor thing is relatively easy, but what about when this person stripped you of your self worth and identity? What about the rage? Isn’t forgiveness the same as just saying what they did is OK? Let’s break this down slowly in sha Allah. Firstly, YOU DON’T HAVE TO FORGIVE! Wanting justice for yourself isn’t haraam! It is better to have patience and forgive (for your own peace and soul) but…
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Am I worthy of Allah’s love?
One question that has reverberated inside my head for a long time is: Am I worthy of love? Through each hardship that left me feeling insecure and lonely I questioned whether I was being punished by Allah. Does Allah love me? I bet that’s crossed many people’s minds, not just mine and not just yours. I reasoned He must not, because if Allah loved me why did people not treat me fairly, why did I feel this way? The truth is, this feeling of not being loveable doesn’t come from us, it comes from other people. It’s their labels that they attach to us, it’s their baggage to carry, not…
